A Word About Judgments

This doesn’t mean that we’re not up for a good judgment party. In fact, we even play with these judgment parties. We’re OK with them and even recommend them as long as we don’t stop there. as long as we don’t stop there. Judgments are powerful expressions that when we listen to them in a certain way. can help connect us to what we most value and what we may be yearning for in our lives.

We say this and work with it in our coaching sessions because we don’t want clients to do an Emotional Bypass on themselves. “Emotional nypass” is a term used to describe a pattern of behavior in which a person avoids or suppresses uncomfortable emotions rather than addressing them directly. It can take many different forms, such as using substances or engaging in addictive behaviors to numb emotional pain, intellectualizing emotions instead of feeling them, or projecting one’s emotions onto others rather than acknowledging and addressing them within oneself.

We also talk about Positive Toxicity. This refers to the excessive emphasis on positivity and the rejection of negative emotions as undesirable or unacceptable. This can lead to the denial of genuine emotions and experiences, a lack of authenticity, and the pressure to always present a positive image, even in the face of challenges or struggles.

In some ways, they’re two sides of the same coin. Emotional bypass involves avoiding emotions altogether, while positive toxicity involves denying or suppressing negative emotions in favor of an excessive focus on positivity. In both cases, the issues are still there and whispering and/or screaming to be seen and heard.